Dealing with Addiction in My Home

You may have noticed I've been a bit quieter here on the blog and in my various ministry projects (Messianic Radio, Messianic Chords, Etz Mitzvot). The reason is, I'm dealing with addiction in my home. A family member is suffering with a longstanding substance addiction.

The family member has agreed to check-in to a 30-day substance abuse recovery program. Right now, I'm just trying to keep my head above water, give 100% at my job, while dealing with this addiction and fallout in my home.

I keep reminding myself to have grace for myself. I'm going to fall behind on various projects, chores, and duties. I can't do it all, and I can't cover everything for the addicted family member. It's OK -- expected, even -- to fall behind on some of these things. I can't do everything, and I can't do 2 full-time jobs forever. I will inevitably forget chores, forget duties, forget to do some responsibility in the home, mess up on some of them. It's OK. I need to have grace for myself during this time.

This week I was driving my daughter to school (30 minute drive) and when we arrived, I realized we had forgotten her school backpack and lunchbox. I was angry at first. At my daughter and at myself. But I remembered to have grace. With the additional workload and burden, there will be things that get forgotten. I need to have grace for myself.

For my family members too. We're all frustrated, feel betrayed, feel estranged from the addicted family member. I need to have grace for them too.

The rehab clinic gave me several books to read. They're books about how family members of addicts can help the addict heal. They talk about how family members make things worse by enabling the addict, hiding addictions, keeping the truth hidden, covering for the addict, being willfully ignorant of the addiction, cowering instead of confronting. I have been doing some of those things for years. 

One helpful thing the books taught me is to separate the addiction from the person. The addict is acting out and treating you terribly because the substance has warped their mind. It truly turns them into another person. It is like demonic possession in a way; that's not the person talking, it's the addiction.

Addiction turns people into demons. My addicted family member became a serial liar. I caught them in so many lies that I couldn't trust a word they told me. Nearly every interaction with the family member became dark and negative: an argument waiting to happen. During Christmas eve, when we had some family activities planned, the addicted family member started picking a fight about some triviality. I said, "It's Christmas eve, no fighting." The addicted family member was then angry and trying to fight with me over the next two days. I now see it's the addiction doing that, not the person. I want the person to get well, and checking into a recovery program is a step towards that.

The books have helped me understand that addiction is a lifelong thing. People can get on the road to recovery. But there will always be the temptation of the substance. Always a possibility of relapse. The addict, once in recovery, has to be vigilant for the rest of their life.

The recovery center has given some lectures to families and patients. At one of the lectures, the counselor said, "Alcohol addiction is hard, because buying and abusing it is legal. Wal Mart is a drug dealer, selling hard liquor. So is Costco and Target and your favorite restaurant."

My addicted family member has now been in the rehab program for 14 days. Being away from the family member for all that time has given me mixed emotions. On the positive side, it's been relatively peaceful. But it's also felt like I'm going through the meat grinder. The family member called me multiple times the first week, begging, pleading, crying, bargaining to get me to pick them up. I had to refuse. Because of that, the addicted family member said hurtful things to me and has for the most part avoided me when I've come to visit them in rehab.

One helpful thing is praising God. I'm reminded of Leah, the unloved wife of Jacob. She kept doing things to make her husband love her, even naming her sons with names that would imply that love. But after birthing several sons, and still feeling unloved, she had another son named Judah. She named him that because Judah means praise:

Then Leah became pregnant again and gave birth to another son and said, “This time I will praise the LORD.” For this reason she named him Judah. Then she stopped having children.

Praising God has been helpful during this time. In the car this morning, after dropping my daughter off at school, I just started praising God. I'm stressed and I'm doing 2 full time jobs and I'm short on sleep and I threw out my back yesterday (damn, I'm old). But I praised God anyway. It's almost a kind of holy defiance: No, I will not give up. No, I will not throw in the towel. No, I will not whine and complain and say woe is me. No, I will praise the Lord.

Please pray for us.

New Year's Resolutions for 2026, by Aaron Hecht

Brothers and sisters, I'm writing this on the afternoon of 30 December, 2025, about 30 hours before the new year of 2026 will begin. Like every year around this time, people all over the world are making those infamous "New Year's Resolutions."

I've gone through the cycle many times myself, making the resolutions to, for instance, "eat more healthy" in the New Year. Usually, the resolutions didn't last long and soon they'd been completely forgotten.

I've never claimed to be a prophet, but I'm gonna make a prediction.

This year, it needs to be different, for all of us. We need to make resolutions and stick with them, because 2026 isn't going to be like previous years. 2026 is a year in which many of the things we rely on for our provision, safety, and security are going to come under severe strain, and it's not difficult to imagine that some of them might even break under that strain.

I'm talking about everything from our health insurance provider to the grocery store to the police and fire department, hospitals, municipal, local, state and federal governments, the schools your children attend, the post office, the military, the banks, the stock market, the electricity grid, the sewage system and everything in between. 

It would take me a long time to explain why I think all these things are going to come under so much stress in 2026, but the short version is that my job requires me to consume mass quantities of information about current events on a daily basis, and that's how it looks to me after doing this every day of my life for the past 20 years or so.

This video (I don't post other people's videos in my blogs very often) is from a channel that specializes in prepping, and I don't necessarily vouch for the advice the guy in the video gives, but I certainly do agree with the rundown he gives of things we need to be paying attention to in the upcoming new year. If you're doing anything to "prep" for difficult times, don't stop. If you're not doing anything yet, it might be time to start. It's never too late and even a little bit of preparation is better than nothing.

Here in Israel, we're being told very candidly by the government that there is a high likelihood of renewed war with Hezbollah and probably also Iran in the new year, and we're also being told that the air defense systems that shot down most of the ballistic missiles Iran fired at us during the 12-Day War in June have been depleted and might not be able to protect us as well in a future conflict as they did in the last one. Even if there are no more wars, there are all kinds of other problems we're staring down the barrel of over here, including tax increases, cuts to government services and ongoing controversies regarding the judicial system, the Ultra-Orthodox (haredi) community and the list just goes on and on.

So, what am I resolving to do in the new year, and what am I advising you to resolve to do?

Three things.

Pray more.

Read the Word more.

Fellowship with my fellow Believers more.

Those are the three things that connect me to the only thing that I can depend on for my provision, safety and security.

Brothers and sisters, please hear me. In 2026, like never before, everything that can be shaken will be shaken, including many things most of us thought would never be shaken. So resolve, in the New Year, to get closer to God and closer to your local congregation and closer to the Body of Christ generally. Pray for your pastoral leadership, pray for your political leadership, pray for your family and your friends, read the One Year Bible with your children, or with your roommate, or your dog, or whoever it is you live with. Do not neglect these things. As the old song goes, "upon the rock of Christ I stand, all other ground is sinking sand."

That's always been true, but it's even more true now than it ever was before.

Happy New Year.

Some thoughts on excuses, by Aaron Hecht

Brothers and sisters, the human race is in very bad shape, and the worst part is, we have only ourselves to blame.

Before we go any further, here's this blog's proof text; Romans 1:18-21: For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, because what may be known of God is manifest in them, for God has shown it to them. For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even His eternal power and Godhead, so that they are without excuse, because, although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened.

This passage is seldom read, much less preached on, in churches today, and it's not hard to understand why. To modern, or maybe I should say "post-modern" ears, this passage sounds very judgmental and unkind. A passage that speaks of "the wrath of God" and also mentions words like "ungodliness and unrighteousness" seems to belong to the Old Testament, which many churches don't even touch anymore.

Even in many Evangelical Protestant churches, you're unlikely to hear any sermons on this passage because it's definitely not what anyone wants to hear in this season of history we're in. Churches, like any other institution, need money to operate, and the way they get money is by people coming in and tithing. But if people hear something they don't like, they might stop coming and they'll also stop tithing and then the church won't have any money and it might even have to shut down, in which case it won't be any good to anyone.

So, the pastors stay away from those passages and topics and "controversy" that might cause this chain of events. The idea of teaching and preaching on those passages and topics which people NEED to hear about, rather then what they might WANT to hear about, seems too risky for most pastors and churches.

In other words, they've got some really good excuses.

You see what I did there? There's a lot more where that came from brothers and sister, so keep reading.

Getting back to the passage itself, I actually think that these words are even more true today than when the Apostle Paul wrote them around 2,000 years ago. 

Paul was referring to the people who populated the pagan, Greco-Roman world of his time, saying that they had no excuse not to worship the Creator God instead of the worthless idols of their pantheon, because the evidence of God's existence and His active involvement in the world could be clearly seen in the physical world. That continued to be true for the next 1,500 years, but then in the early 1600's in Europe, the Bible began to be available for ordinary people to read in their native languages, and there was even less of an excuse for these people to fail to see the truth of God's existence and involvement in the world. As the decades went on, the Bible was translated into more and more vernacular languages. Hundreds of millions of copies of this Book were printed in all these different languages, and they became available to almost everyone. Then the internet was invented, and the Scriptures became even more widely available. 

Today, the overwhelming majority of people living on this planet have not only the "invisible attributes" of God right in front of their faces all the time, they also have access to the Word of God in their own native language.

Especially in the English-speaking and reading West, which is where most of the people reading this blog are, there truly is NO EXCUSE to be ignorant of the plans and purposes of God in this season of history we're in. If someone is not declaring themselves to be a follower of Jesus Christ, then they still don't have an excuse, but I'm going to put that issue to the side for a moment, and come back to it at the end of the blog.

For now, I'm focusing on the estimated 2.5 billion self-described Christians living in the world today, especially the estimated 800 million Evangelical Protestants. These people really have ZERO excuse to be ignorant of God's plans and purposes in the world today, and they REALLY shouldn't be actively and deliberately opposing those plans and purposes.

But many are.

The Jewish State of Israel's reappearance on the map of the world in 1948 is the fulfillment of prophecies in both the Old and New Testaments. The ingathering of the exiles, the capital of the country being in the city of Jerusalem, and many other things that have happened in the last 77 years are specifically mentioned in the Prophetic passages of both the Old and New Testaments.

Anyone who calls themselves a Christian should be familiar enough with the Bible to know that.

But many are not, and they have no excuse for it.

Another tragicomic example of this phenomenon is the so-called "Prosperity Gospel," which is not only not supported by Scripture, it is flatly and unambiguously repudiated by it.

So-called "Liberation theology" is another un-Biblical heresy which is widely popular in many Christian circles, and it is especially popular in anti-Israel circles where it is used as justification for opposing Israel, which the Liberation Theologians brand as an "oppressor" and a "colonizer" of the kind Jesus came to set the "oppressed" free from.

On the other hand, White Nationalism, especially the Christian variant of it, is also flatly repudiated by the Bible, as are many other ideas which are tragically very popular in the American Church, and also in other Anglo-Saxon, English-speaking countries. Those who make the triumphalist statement that "Christ is King" never say where on this earth the kingdom He rules over is, but it's obvious that they think it's basically the United States and maybe Canada and Western Europe, and that the kingdom of Christ is under siege from all the other earthly kingdoms, somehow especially Israel and the Jews.

Last but not least, Replacement Theology is not only not supported by Scripture, but it is also specifically addressed and repudiated later in Paul's Epistle to the Romans, especially in chapters 9-11.

Of course, my other least favorite anti-Christ heresy, Dual Covenant Theology, is also specifically addressed and repudiated by Paul's Epistle to the Romans, especially Romans 1:16; For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believes, for the Jew first and also for the Greek.

Replacement Theology is the anti-Christ heresy Christians who oppose Israel love and the one Christian supporters of Israel love to hate, while Dual Covenant Theology is the one many Christian supporters of Israel embrace on some level and to some degree, whether they want to admit it or not.

What all of these heresies and silly ideas have in common is that the people who teach them probably know that they're not supported by Scripture, while the people who follow these false teachers have no excuse for doing so. The Bible also contains warnings about false teachers and false prophets, and procedures for how you can know when you encounter them, and what to do when you recognize one.

And yet, there are SO MANY cults and false religions, false teachers, false prophets and false brethren in the world today, and they've got tens of millions of followers.

The false prophets and false teachers pushing their false gospels and their false Christs are going to face terrible judgment for what they're doing, but their followers will be judged too.

Neither the false teachers nor their followers have any excuses.

Now there's two more groups of people who are very strongly opposing the plans and purposes of God in the world today, but they're not claiming to be Christians. I said earlier in the blog that I'd come back to them at the end, and here we are.

The first group are the hundreds of millions (and their numbers are ever increasing) of people who are anti-Israel (and often also anti-Semitic) because of one excuse or another. Sometimes it's because they claim to believe that "Israel is committing genocide against the Palestinians" or because Israel is "in stolen land" or because "Israel is an apartheid state," or because "the Jews claim to be God's special people and that's exactly what the Nazis said about themselves," and so on and so on. There are SO MANY excuses that people have for being anti-Israel these days, and this phenomenon has gone all over the world.

The excuses people make for being anti-Israel (and despite their vehement denials, this almost always spills over into anti-Semitism) are ludicrously absurd at best.

Some people say they're angry about the USS Liberty incident, which happened in the context of the Six Day War in 1967, 58 years ago. These people will also say that they're not "anti-Jewish," they're just opposed to the policies of the current Israeli government, which wasn't in power in 1967 and actually, many of the people in the current Knesset hadn't even been born back then.

Other people will hold demonstrations outside Synagogues and say that they're not "anti-Jewish" but they are opposed to genocide and Israel wouldn't be able to survive without the support of Diaspora Jews like the ones in those synagogues. They'll also make excuses for their evil behavior by saying that these synagogues are places where "stolen land" gets sold or whatever.

Excuses, excuses, excuses.

I think that on some level these people know that what they're doing is hypocritical, even by their own godless, secular, humanist standards. But they make these fig leaf excuses anyway, to anyone who challenges them, to each other, and most of all to themselves.

Finally, there's one other group of people who make hypocritical, dishonest excuses, and that's the Jewish people. The excuse they make for rejecting Jesus as the Messiah spoken about by the prophets is that He did not bring peace to the earth. I've had conversations with Orthodox rabbis in which I've pointed out that He fulfilled all the prophecies about where the Messiah would be born, what Tribe He would belong to, that He would be a descendent of King David, and many other thins. They don't even try to deny any of this. They just keep coming back to this excuse about how Jesus of Nazareth didn't bring peace to the earth, so He doesn't qualify as the Messiah.

At this point in the conversation, I will point out that Jesus provided the possibility of making the only peace that really matters, between the God who created this world, and the humans that He created, who have been at enmity with Him since the Garden of Eden because of the sin of Adam and Eve. By providing that possibility, He leaves it up to us humans to either accept what He's offering or not.

They've got excuses why they don't want to accept that undeniable fact as well, and if you want to know what the Rabbinically authorized excuses are, you can go ask a Rabbi yourself.

The point is, what all of these excuses have in common is that they don't hold up to serious and/or honest scrutiny. These excuses also won't hold up to the judgment of a holy God.

One of the most terrifying passages of Scripture is Hebrews 9:26-28; He then would have had to suffer often since the foundation of the world; but now, once at the end of the ages, He has appeared to put away sin by the sacrifice of Himself. And as it is appointed for men to die once, but after this the judgment, so Christ was offered once to bear the sins of many. To those who eagerly wait for Him He will appear a second time, apart from sin, for salvation.

The terrifying part is in the middle, " it is appointed for men to die once, but after this the judgment."

Every single human being who ever lived, sooner or later came (or will come) to the end of their mortal life and stepped out of time and into eternity, and they started their journey in eternity by standing before the Judgement Seat of Christ.

The Bible doesn't tell us everything about that experience, but there's one thing I think we can nonetheless be quite certain of, He isn't interested in anyone's excuses.

He's not going to be interested in anyone's lame, silly, hypocritical, dishonest excuses.

Those people who call themselves Christians but never bothered to read the Bible and become familiar enough with it so that they got involved in carrying out His plans and purposes in this world instead of being a hindrance to them are going to have to try and explain why, and if they try to make excuses, those excuses aren't going to work on HIm. They might have worked in this life, but they won't work there.

So, brothers and sisters, I urge you to spend time in His Word in this rapidly approaching new year.

The best way to do that is through the One Year Bible which I recommend every year in the month of December. You can download the App for free and there's still time to get an old-fashioned paper copy before the new year starts.

But whether you read it online or get a paper copy, I commend the One Year Bible to you.

Get to know Him. Get to know His heart for Israel, the Jewish people, the Gentiles, and everything else that's going on in this season of history we're living in. The more you learn, the fewer mistakes you'll make, the more useful you will be to Him and His Kingdom, the less of a hindrance you'll be to His Kingdom, and the less of a stumbling block you'll be to others.

If you read this entire blog, I salute you. I know it's not what most people want to hear, but it IS what this generation needs to hear.